I just figured something out; we define the most important things in our lives by focusing on them. Be there negative things from our past that we bring up (mentally or in talking to friends) or positive things from the present that we focus on - that's what goes a long way to tell people who you are.
It's not that we should not share our experiences - but we should focus on how much importance they play on the now. You know, pay attention to it
I choose to let all of the negative things and experiences in my past - just go away (of course the woman I love cant do that and will never do that with me) but for me those negative things served their purpose in getting me to where I am - and I've learned from them and time to move on for me.
I am thankful every single day for the exact moment I am in. and I only wish my lovely lady will share my feelings someday. but for me I choose to live in the present and enjoy the gift it truly is
I have changed a lot during the last ten years, those experiances and especially loosing the love of my life and trying to win her back, have tought me a lot and now my purpose is to be honest with myself and my beloved one.
Well, she might not like much, and at some points she thinks I have a change of heart, but that never happened to me, no matter what I do I have learned to express my true feelings only when she have the same feelings for me cause otherwise I will say things to satisfy her can't be done.
By the wat, Also, I choose to drink vodka tonic (with a wee lime) as I have evolved somewhat from pina coladas and fruity drinks. Not that I'm saying they aren't still good - it's just that I've expanded my repertoire. It's all part of the now....
