Jealousy...

When I was in Dubai on Saturday night, a close friend of mine told me her real life story, which in my opinion sounded like something from the movies. But nevertheless, it's something that we can all ponder on.

I will referr to my friend as -A- who was married to quite a well-to-do guy -B-. This guy -B- loved A tremendously, and sought to make their lives as comfortable as can be.
He bought a very nice house, an expensive car for her, jewelries, etc. According to her,-B- really loved her, and on the part of A, she actually really loved him as well.

Now, A has a best friend - C - who happens to be her childhood friend, her classmate (from school days), and he was a guy. C is married and has children of his own, but remained in close contact with A - with the knowledge of her husband - B - of course. There is absolutely no problem there.

But sometime later, C's marriage was on the rocks, and it was on the verge of collapsing. So he sought comfort from A. He often would call her up during the day and during the nights to talk, and he would come to the house during the day as well while -B- isn't home.

As time when by, B got extremely suspicious and jealous of this closeness between A and C, and began to exert control over A's availability to go out, to take phone calls, etc.
It was getting from a point of controlling to possessiveness (according to A). Every single action, and every single word spoken by A, would be met by an evil suspicion by B. B began to loose himself and became abusive and unreasonable towards A.

But A never stopped reassuring B that her relationship with C was in fact a real "friendship", which was developed since they were kids, through primary school and secondary school, till now (you can imagine how small Kuala Belait or Seria is. Everybody seems to know everybody, and the friendship would last a lifetime normally).

Unfortunately, B was never ever able to recover from this deadly sin - Jealousy.

One fine day. B left her for good. Without a trace or a note, he just disappeared. Till today.

C's marriage with his wife eventually got better and is now happily married once again. A was devastated and searched everywhere for her husband, but he left her for good due to him being unable to breathe anymore in their marriage. He probably felt that whatever she did from then on, would be met by suspicion by him. That's perhaps the reason for him leaving her.

Despite B loving A with all his heart, his downfall was JEALOUSY.

Now when A told me the story, I told her that B sure lost confidence in himself and her, that my friend drove him away from his love (which at a certine time became more painfull for him)

"But I have never been anything but real wife to him" She said

"well, I am sure you haven't, but A you have croseed some lines welcoming C at home while your husband not there knowing that B is having already problem with this kind at the moment" I said

"So if I cut my relation with C that wouldn't happen?" she said

"No, not at all, if you limit it for sometime till your husband passes his issues, would have solved everything, not to mention that your friend C should've took some action to establish trust with B, which again he didn't" I said

I personally think girls can be more vicious when it comes to competition and jealousy. I'm very sure if girls ruled the world, it'd end in nuclear war fairly fast.

But I also believe women can easily forgive men if they find out that the men has an affair, and if the man actually begs for forgiveness and was honest about his begging.

But men, once they suspect something is going on. Thats about the end of the world for them.